MELMIRA I REFLECTIONS ON TRAVELING SOLO

Melmira     September 15, 2021 in ASL 9 Subscribers Subscribe


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Hola! I want to explain more about my experience traveling alone, specifically about how society views it. Two examples come to mind. First, I went to one of my favorite restaurants and that restaurant always has long lines. When it was my turn I said I wanted a seat for one. They gestured, “one”? I always have to repeat myself everywhere when I say “table for one”, because they question it. Is it not normal for a person to eat alone at a nice restaurant? I don’t know, but anyway, at that restaurant, that woman told me to hold on and let other groups of two, three and four people through. I understand they were trying to accommodate everyone, and make good use of their seats, but I did begin to feel a bit impatient. She finally led me to a table and I ended up sitting at a table for three. It seems she realized that’s how it had to be and I waited for nothing. The second example: I got in line for the ferris wheel on Times Square! I was so excited, but they didn’t allow single riders and said I had to ride with someone else. So I waited on the side and other groups were allowed past, like groups of friends, families, couples… I was on my own. At the same time I wanted to tell them I’d prefer to be alone, as I didn’t want to be with a stranger in a small space. I wanted to be alone, and enjoy this experience. Finally, they let me ride it alone. Of course, it would have been nice to share that experience with someone, but not a stranger. Someone I know, I mean. Anyways, these are two examples. I think that’s interesting, the societal view on being alone. Something’s wrong with you? Why are you alone? It’s just the vibe I got. I don’t know if you’ve experienced the same thing. Another thing that comes to mind is about pictures! You know, New York City is full of photo ops. Of course I love pictures. So I had to do what I could and use a tripod or my backpack to hold my phone up and take pictures with a timer. Or sometimes if I had no choice, I had to look for someone who seemed willing and ask them to take a photo of me. Some people made a face, and some were more willing. So, really, during these moments I had to just get past these feelings of insecurity and be assertive with asking others. I’m curious if those of you who travel alone or go exploring on your own have similar experiences! Many of you shared your experiences with me which I really enjoyed listening to. Maybe the next step would be me going out of the country? Maybe. We’ll see someday!

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